Can You Be Single Too Long?
Is it possible to be single too long? It absolutely is. The reason for this is you become really set in your ways. Relationships and especially marriage are about work and sacrifice. Give and take. When you’re single you do what you want, when you want, and for however long you want. You don’t have to check in with anyone. You look at your options for whatever and make the decision solely on your own without conferring with anyone else. Even if you’re a single parent you’re making the decision with your child(ren) in mind but you’re making the decision as a sole adult not worried about what another adult thinks.
You get to eat what you want. You get to watch what you want. You get to decide what sound you want. You decide everything for yourself without considering another adult. It’s really a liberating and an easy decision to just worry about you. Being single is the easiest thing in the world. You don’t have to spend time worrying about someone else.
Humans are creatures of habit despite what some may think. We all have our morning routine. We have our get home from work routine and our get ready for bed routine. We all have more than that but at minimum every person has those three routines. When you want to share your life with someone else every routine you have will have to be altered. At least it should if you’re serious about having an equal partner in your life.
Even beyond normal routines, sacrifices and work must be made towards finances, living situations, eating situations, entertainment situations, and every other situation we deal with on a daily basis. No matter what you think there is not going to be anyone that plugs perfectly into your current life. To make it work you’re going to have to change your routines. You’re going to have to look at your finances differently. You’re going to have things in your fridge or pantry that you might find disgusting and would never think of consuming. You’re probably going to move and watch shows you wouldn’t normally watch. Things will be different and someone else will factor into those decisions.
It’s okay though. You’re building a life with someone else and that’s part of it. Give and take. Work and sacrifice. It’s not all about you. It’s about someone else. You’re making a sacrifice to gain something bigger in your life which is having a companion.
When you’re set in your ways and just want to find someone to plug and play into your life you’re never going to find that person. You’ll always be making decisions just for yourself. You'll never have someone else to confer with on decisions which can be a cool thing. It’s absolutely possible to be single too long if you’re looking for an eternal mate. You become less willing to make any sacrifices for someone else or you’re looking for someone that doesn’t exist.
There’s nothing wrong with being single. Just realize if you truly want an eternal mate that "single you" can no longer exist. A partner or married version of you must emerge based on work and sacrifice. If you’re not willing to work and sacrifice the odds of you staying single even longer continue to increase.
The choice is yours.
If you're a female in or near you're 30's and have never heard of the 30's Vortex for Single Females I encourage you to watch the video explaining it here:
Some people find it offensive but the reality is those that it offends are the most guilty of doing the things it mentions. Make no mistake the pool of guys is terrible but if you want out of the Vortex you really need to think about what you're doing. If you're not willing to make some changes to how you date the odds are really high of you repeating the results you're seeing now.
If you want to learn more about each action that's likely creating a negative result you can watch some short videos here that hopefully explain how to think differently:
You can also read some of the various blogs on the website along with the detailed theory. The whole point of the 30's Vortex is really not to be offensive. It's meant to poke fun at the reality of dating and hopefully spur people to think differently about dating.
It's okay to be in the Vortex as there's nothing wrong being single. If you want out that though it's going to take some changes in how you're dating. Good luck!